The barrier to entrance. A phrase lingering in the air today. It was in reference to not moving that close to one’s parents or in-laws so that they give you that needed space that all of us crave sometimes. I thought about this phrase and the comment after it, the one about my parents visiting quite often since the baby was born. I thought about how I felt about them visiting so often and I discussed it with my husband and I thought about it some more later on, on my own.
And truth be told, I love them visiting so often.
If that barrier to entrance has been broken, I’d rather not mend it, because it’s been a joy having them over. They’re grandparents now. I’ve gotten to see them in this new light and it becomes them. My dad wanting to always hold the baby, my mom cooing into her face and telling me stories of how I was just like her when I was little. They are happy and always smiling when they are here with her. I’m hearing songs sung I haven’t heard since I was a child. I’m excited for the future and what it will hold for them as grandparents. I wonder about the relationships they will build with my daughter and smile thinking of the fun times they will have when she’s older. I see my mother teaching her to sew. I see my father playing the guitar as she sings along.
So, no, there is no barrier to entrance anymore. I want my parents to be around as often as possible, experiencing every little moment that my husband and I get to experience with the baby. I feel their presence in her life is incredibly important and I want them to know, and her to know, of its importance… I am already cherishing these moments that they get to have with each other. It’s funny how seeing your baby with your parents can bring you back to your own childhood. You can catch a glimpse of years long ago. I catch those small glimpses of how they must have been those thirty some years ago with me, when I was a tiny baby, their first. Now here they are seasoned parents turned first time grandparents and I don’t want them to miss anything.The barrier to entrance may have been up when my husband and I were too cool for parents, too young and hip and settling into our own married routine. But it’s different now. We moved closer to be closer. And anyway, that barrier to entrance crumbled six months ago when my mother walked into that hospital room, tears streaming down her face as she got to hold her grand baby for the first time…
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Love it, Summer. I feel the same way!
We’ll be right over…
By the way did you know that “Barrier to Entry” is really an economic term? I remember the term from my college days studying business admin. Anyway, here’s some interesting info for you and Jeff to check out :http://www.education.com/magazine/article/setting-boundaries-grandparents/.
I totally agree with you. I though that I needed space from my parents but now I live in a house connected and my girls are being raise by a community.
that’s great Kristin! I think we are needing more of these “communities” where relatives are let in and not pushed away. Thanks for reading!
How did we get so lucky to have a daughter like you? And the sweetest, most beautiful granddaughter ever!!!
I rent a house right next door to my parents and there is no knocking on the doors, and I think it is just about perfect. The path between our two houses has become my favorite spot on this earth I think. My kids run back and forth between the houses all day. It’s so special.